Start Dating gift giving guide

Dating gift giving guide

Because this meant I cared far more than he did – and we both knew it. Sadly, many of my girlfriends have had similar experiences.

In the eyes of a woman, a gift is not simply a gift, but a declarative statement that tells her everything she needs to know on the subject of how you really feel about her. If you want to err on the side of caution, you could always get something and then return it if she doesn’t give you anything. Don’t assume she’ll love your death metal mashup just because you’re president of the Cannibal Corpse fan club. For example, maybe on your first date you saw some ducks and she named that one little duckling Darrell because he looked like a Darrell. (And don’t flirt with her.) Again, the secret here is to make sure each gift is accompanied by a .

If you’ve only just begun dating, a gift really isn’t necessary. Of course, this gift works best if the two of you like the same music. Normally, I’m not a fan of gifting dust-collecting tchotchkes, but if you’re just starting to date, something cute could work – IF AND ONLY IF it has some sort of significance and is not just some random bobblehead or something. If it’s the latter, then go more conservative (and you should probably also have that conversation with your lady friend if you haven’t already). Event tickets: Tickets to a concert, play or other type of show that you will both enjoy is always a sure bet. Future activity: Sign the two of you up for a vegan cooking class, trapeze lessons, or if you’re feeling really saucy, a weekend getaway. If in doubt, ask a woman her age who dresses in a similar manner to that of your lady friend.

I think these are adorable, because it means you took the time to create something special just for her. Spring for one of those fancy wine bottle gift bags. Do you want to be her boyfriend but don’t know how to bring it up? If it’s the former, you can step it up in the gift department. WARNING: you may only resort to this option if you are fairly fashion-forward yourself and have a very good sense of her style.

Or the worst — what if one person presents a gift and (gasp! I realize I am generalizing here, but in my experience, women have a tendency to go a wee bit overboard when it comes to giving presents. AVOID: Lingerie, jewelry, clothing, cologne, stuffed animals (we are grown women), a vibrator, anything sexual actually, the latest incarnation of World of Warcraft. At the end of the day, you know your not-significant other better than I do (because I don’t know them at all), so if you just KNOW she would go gaga over a Target gift card (cough) or you are POSITIVELY CERTAIN he would adore a frilly framed photo of the two of you (you sure, girl? This is merely a loose guide for the frustrated and clueless, and it gives you somewhere to start.

A few years ago I went out of my way, searched high and low and spent far too much of my paycheck on a thoughtful gift for a guy I had been casually dating for several months (he kept saying didn’t want to “rush it”). Now, I realize some of you may be scoffing, saying to yourself, these ideas suck! Above all, keep in mind that while gift giving to new flames can be stressful, it is indeed a problem of the first world order.

There are just so many unanswered questions: Do they like you? Or, if you’ve only been out a few times, is a gift even required? To assist in your quest for the perfect (or at least not completely mortifying) gift, I’ve put together some rough guidelines. ” If he blows it off, play it safe and stick with the guidelines above. A flask, a beer mug, a respectable bottle of booze. If you go the highly impersonal fruit basket or gift card route, it can come off as lazy or like you just don’t care. Be sure to explain your thought process as you present her with this precious offering.

What if one of you spends WAY more money than the other? Make note: the recommendations are different for men and women, because generally speaking, the sexes have differing views when it comes to gift giving. If he asks about yours and hints that he might get you something, you might be safe to go a further, like: 1. But only if you get them dirt cheap on Goldstar and it’s a band you like, too. She will appreciate it and you will score major points.

In return, he got me an enormous bouquet of nothing. Don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with it, because this will all seem like child’s play next year when you’re a real couple and you have to introduce them to your crackpot family.

He said he was broke, felt a little guilty and was touched at my efforts, but I could tell it was the beginning of the end.

So, my advice to the ladies on holiday gift giving to new dudes is this: 1. Unless you’re one of those nutty couples who rush into things at Kardashian speed, nothing is expected if you’ve been dating less than a month.

AVOID: Anything cutesy or romantic, socks, underwear, watches, clothing, a transcript of your first text conversation embroidered on a pillow. These days, the phrase “it’s the thought that counts” has become somewhat of a punch line. Notice if she comments on something while you’re out together, for example, her love of Paul Frank novelties or how she thinks caramel is superior to chocolate on the flavor spectrum. A rubber duckie (named Darrell, duh) could be a sweet reminder of your first date and she’ll totally go “Awww! But if you give her a good reason for the gift, it changes everything. More examples (because I know guys need help in this department): If her phone case broke and she loves elephants, give her an elephant-encrusted phone case.